The Attachment Styles
Attachment styles are key pieces in navigating relationships. Knowing and understanding your main attachment style can help you to better understand yourself and help you to build healthier, deeper, and longer-lasting connections.
A Fatherless Generation
We live in the most fatherless generation of all time. Fathers have turned their backs on their wives and children and are leaving to never return.
It’s time to change the narrative of the modern family and fulfill the Malachi 4:6 mandate God has set out before us. How can we be a catalyst for change in this world?
Transitioning Well
Change is all around us. Everyone is navigating some sort of transition or another. Whether it’s changing a job, marriage, moving to a new place, the loss of a loved one, or the birth of a new baby, life is always moving.
Transition and change can be difficult, but it’s also a really beautiful thing. It’s important that as life moves we move with it.
God and Grief
Grief is a normal part of the human experience. Our lives are ever-changing, moving, and transitioning, with loss being a pivotal catalyst for that change.
Whether you’re mourning the loss of a person, a job, a season, or a dream, it’s essential that you go through the process of grieving. This complex process of emotions can and should draw you closer to the Father.
Boundaries: Why and How?
Boundaries are key to maintaining strong, healthy connections in our relationships. They come easier to some than others but are necessary for everyone.
Just like boundaries in the physical tell you where you can and cannot go, emotional boundaries in relationships are there to define what the limits and expectations are of everyone involved.
Cultivating Connection with Your Kids
Connection is a vital part of our lives. We weren’t created to do life disconnected or apart from other people. That goes for children, too.
Children value and need connection just as much as adults, but they need help expressing that need and getting that need met. It’s important that as parents we foster deep, meaningful connection with our children so that as they grow up, they grow up knowing they’re valued, seen, and heard.
Do I need a coach?
We all need help achieving our dreams sometimes. A coach is a wonderful advocate and partner on this journey.
During coaching sessions, they’ll ask you powerful questions and help you develop an action plan. They’ll also provide support and accountability each step of the way.
3 Tips for Healing From Trauma
Trauma can be a deeply distressing and overwhelming experience, and it's normal to feel like you're struggling to cope. There are a variety of events and situations that can cause trauma, and trauma can cause a variety of detrimental effects in a person’s life.
Healing from trauma can be a complex and individual process that takes time and effort. But we believe that God is the Healer and Counselor who died so that you can live a life of wholeness, purpose, and freedom.
Overview of Sozo Tools
Sozo has grown so much in the past 20 years. Dawna De Silva and Teresa Liebscher started it in 1998, and it’s exploded into many countries across the globe.
We believe that the more people who heal their relationship with God, the more souls will be saved! Two of our most popular tools are the Father Ladder and the Four Doors, and we’re excited to help you learn how they work and how God can use them to help you get the breakthrough you need.
Making Perfect Decisions
Too often in life, we make decisions from the tactical realm. This is the "What do I do?" world that so many people focus on.
But the best option is to slow down and operate from your God-given purpose. When you remember who you are, why you’re alive, and what your vision is, life gets a lot easier.
Victim, Villain, or Hero?
There are 3 roles any person can play in a relationship: a victim, a villain, or a hero. Victims and villains are opposites, but a hero is an alternative everyone should aspire to; God created us with this capacity built into our DNA.
God wants us to be champions to our spouses, our children, and our communities. With His help, you have what it takes!
Heroism requires stamina, courage, honor, and sacrifice. It means taking ownership for your actions and communicating bravely and respectfully.
Trusting God
Losses can shake our faith. When our needs – physical, financial, or otherwise – don’t get resolved, doubt creeps in. We start to wonder if God even hears us at all, thinking, How do we trust God when our deepest disappointments get realized?
A wise man once said, "Those who love the most hurt the most.” We have the opportunity to love God with all of our hearts. While it might seem safe to close off and guard our hearts from disappointment, cynicism is not healthy.
Believers are called to intercede for the impossible.
What does healing look like?
When you first become aware that there are areas of your life that need healed, it can feel like a massive mountain to climb to be able to reach the peak and to obtain the elusive “healing” that is often spoken of.
Yet, not one of us ever reaches a place in all areas of our lives where we reach that ubiquitous destination.
There are some of us who have become more healed than others, yes, but there is always more!
Trust takes time.
If you’ve ever struggled to trust, you likely have good reasons for that. Trust takes time to build.
Our brain literally forms grooves over time based on our repeated thoughts, actions and experiences. But the good news is our minds are pliable and trust can be (re-) learned and built. We’re “transformed by” the [literal] “renewing of our minds”. [Romans 12:2]
Conflict is an invitation to intimacy.
Conflict is merely information. It’s not right or wrong. But it’s information. And most likely it’s information that I don’t already have or we probably wouldn’t be in this conflict.
What’s your attachment style?
As an adult, your ways of reacting to relational intimacy and conflict often stem from the way that your parents responded to your physical and emotional needs. This is called your “attachment style,” and it also shapes how you choose relationships and give/receive love within them.
If you find yourself drawn to the same type of poor relationships, or you continue to play out destructive cycles in your relationships, then your attachment style may be the underlying culprit. The good news is that you can change your attachment style with intentional effort and healing!
Pain can be a gift.
We're often so afraid of pain that we default to stuffing our pain or attempting to ignore it. When we choose this path, the end result is unforgiveness, bitterness, and even a “hardness” in our hearts that decreases our capacity for joy, peace, and love.
But there's hope! We can change the way we see pain: Every painful thought is a gift. In this blog, explore 6 steps for processing pain and receiving comfort from God in the midst of it.
3 steps to identifying and meeting your needs.
A good place to start growing towards relational wholeness is by learning to identify and express your needs.
Why? Because your needs drive most of your actions and behaviors, even if you lack conscious awareness of them.