Well-Balanced Relationships
We all want healthy relationships. Understanding the difference between interdependent and codependent relationships can help us build the connections we desire.
Interdependency vs Codependency
Interdepedencny and codependency are 2 terms used when we talk about relational health. They describe different behaviors we display in our relationships.
Interdependent
Interdependent relationships have unity at the center. They are mutually beneficial and balanced relationships with the needs, desires, boundaries, and emotions of each person involved recognized and valued. Everyone keeps their independence while relying on support from others.
In interdependent relationships, individuals support and rely on each other to meet their needs and goals. Each party actively aids in the mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being of the relationship. Each person recognizes the strengths and weaknesses of the other and offers help, encouragement, and wisdom.
This involves a deep emotional connection and a strong bond of trust, with each person feeling safe to be vulnerable with their thoughts and emotions. Deep emotional intimacy builds a solid foundation of security for the relationship.
An interdependent relationship is characterized by interlocking independence with everyone feeling valued, safe, and connected.
Codependent
Codependent relationships are often dysfunctional with an unhealthy pattern of actions and behaviors. We can experience codependency in romantic or familial relationships. Codependency typically develops during childhood and can be passed down through generational cycles.
With codependency, usually, one person in the relationship is excessively relying on the other to meet their needs emotionally, physically, and mentally.
In a codependent relationship, there are 2 roles: the enabler and the enabled. One person assumes the role of caretaker while the other person displays neediness, overdependence, or addictive patterns.
Within this kind of relationship, one person is usually sacrificing their own well-being, boundaries, and personal growth to accommodate the needs of the other person. This results in a lack of identity, low self-esteem, and issues setting limits and boundaries.
When the relationship is codependent, everyone experiences emotional dysregulation and instability. Each person is relying on the other to take care of their emotional needs. This creates an unhealthy emotional dynamic.
Overcoming Codependency
If you recognize codependent cycles or patterns in your relationships, you CAN overcome! We are cycle-breakers and healthy relationships are our inheritance through the death and resurrection of Jesus. You can overcome by:
-focusing on self-awareness
-healing from past trauma and hurts
-learning more about your identity in Christ and who He says you are
-being kind and extending grace to yourself in the learning process
-standing firm on your core values, boundaries, and convictions
It’s time for breakthrough! You can overcome dysfunction and have healthy relationships.