Breaking Free from the Invisible Chains
What is a victim spirit and how do we stay free from it?
The Victim spirit is empowered by a mindset. That mindset keeps people stuck in powerlessness, blame, and passivity.
Have you ever had an opportunity to step up and lead in an area but making decisions feels scary? Are you unable to trust yourself to make good decisions so you let someone else step up and take the lead? –This is just one example of a victim spirit in operation.
I used to live under the pressure of constantly trying to measure up. Marrying into a whole new family culture, I learned how to walk on eggshells. I became afraid that if I said something that disagreed with their opinion I would end up alone. I was afraid that I would be rejected if I expressed silliness or happiness. I was afraid that if I were truly myself, I would be mocked.
I was completely powerless. I didn’t realize that I was empowering a lie in my life. I had let go of the bold-fierce-direct part of my personality because I believed the lie that women were not supposed to be bold, but they were supposed to be mild. I was mocked by certain family members when I spoke up. Everything I said was repeated back to me in an unkind manner and I would be laughed at. I began to believe that it would be better for someone else to take the lead because I couldn’t trust my voice anymore. I didn’t realize that I was plowing the way for a stronghold to be set up to protect myself from the mocking. I began to shut down and not speak up about anything. I was so afraid of the pain of being mocked that I began to seek out validation from others by surrounding myself with people who would pity me.
Sometimes people mock what they don’t understand. That doesn’t make you wrong or bad and it doesn’t mean that your feelings aren’t valid or real, but you have the authority to command your atmosphere! You don’t have to partner with any kind of spirit that isn’t in alignment with Jesus and what He thinks about you!
“Lies we believe create the battles we fight. Fear creates a lifestyle that encircles around the lies and doesn’t confront the truth until you face it.” - Dancing on the Graves of Your Past by Yvonne Martinez
What does it look like to face the truth?
First, you must recognize the patterns in your life that are not producing good fruit.
Are you attracting the same disappointments, the same failures, and the same unhealthy relationships over and over again?
Can you relate?
You often find yourself in unhealthy relationships that are filled with blame, resentment, and control.
You are unable to experience true intimacy with people because deep down, you believe you will always be hurt or abandoned.
You don’t have joy or peace because you’re always focused on what’s wrong and what’s unfair.
Instead of moving forward, you’re stuck in the past, replaying hurts and injustices, unable to step into new opportunities because you fear failure or rejection.
You resist change even when it's for your good because it feels too risky or hard.
You feel abandoned or forgotten.
You doubt God’s goodness and question whether He really has a plan for your life.
Instead of walking by faith, you live in fear and discouragement.
Seeing yourself as helpless and seeking out relationships where you can be "rescued" or pitied is dangerous to your connections. If a victim mindset has been causing you to manipulate or control others, knowingly or unknowingly, it’s time to remove the spiritual rope that has been around your neck suffocating your voice, and take your power back in the spirit!
There is hope for you! God wants you to believe in yourself. Turn your focus away from who you are not and what you don’t have and turn your attention to Jesus’s love and His ability in you! Turn your attention to who He says you are and what you have in Him. Focus on Him.
Who has God been to you? Has He been your deliverer? Your provider? Your healer?
“Making a choice to partner with God in your destiny is walking in identification with Jesus, rather than identification with your current circumstances, what has happened to you, or the mistakes you made. What happens around you or to you isn’t who you are, and it doesn’t define who you are called to be.” - Dancing on the Graves of Your Past by Yvonne Martinez
Has hurt from the past caused you to close your heart?
Have you taken the stance of being ‘powerless’, hopeless, or helpless and perhaps had rage, depression, or resentment as the fruit?
Who are you in agreement with? Are you empowering a lie?
Come in for a Sozo and find out! It’s time to step into your God-given authority, take responsibility for your choices, and align your thoughts with His truth.
